Voices that are positive and helpful
or negative and discouraging?
We, as a family have decided to show our work yearly. It gives us purpose and a deadline. Also, it reflects our life. So it is very personal, hence the self doubt and voices going on.
Some of this work has been years in the making and developing. Finally, some huge and important pieces reflecting our lives have been completed and will be revealed in this art show. Odia's work is especially amazing and touching as it has to do with her experience of not being able to become pregnant for 17 years. There is art there we had no I idea she was doing, even monthly as it became apparent she was again and again not getting pregnant. It is about our lives and our take on things. Should we be revealing these things? The self talk works overtime.
I have a friend who's just written a blog on "Self Talk" which is very helpfull for me today. I'm sharing Seth Godin's comments for myself and for you today below.
"There's no more important criticism than self criticism.
There's no amount of external validation that can undo the constant drone of internal criticism.
And negative self talk is hungry for external corroboration. One little voice in the ether that agrees with your internal critic is enough to put you in a tailspin.
The remedy for negative self talk, then, is not the search for unanimous praise from the outside world. It's a hopeless journey, and one that destroys the work, because you will water it down in fear of that outside critic that amplifies your internal one.
The remedy is accurate and positive self talk. Endless amounts of it.
Not delusional affirmations or silly metaphysical pronouncements about the universe. No, merely the reassertion of obvious truths, a mantra that drives away the nonsense the lizard brain is selling as truth.
You cannot reason with negative self talk or somehow persuade it that the world disagrees. All you can do is surround it with positive self talk, drown it out and overwhelm it with concrete building blocks of great work, the combination of expectation, obligation and possibility.
When in doubt, tell yourself the truth."
You can find Seth at:
Thank you Seth...I needed that today.
is often like a switch on a railroad track
an inch between wreck and smooth rolling prosperity."
-Henry Ward Beecher”
“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.”
— Willie Nelson